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richfavinger
One of the stories featured on TLC's new show "My Life as a Child"

My Life As a Child documents the lives of 20 American children, between the ages of 7 and 11. Each episode inter-cuts the stories of three to four children from different backgrounds, providing a complete snapshot of American life through their eyes.

http://tlc.discovery.com/tv/specials/my-li...hild/about.html

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"Fear and doubt never had a chance. Not from the minute Sam Flores laid eyes on 8-year-old Cole Massie wrapping both arms around a handrail at the Glendale YMCA and inching his way up the last 16 steps to make it to his karate class on time." ...

Those steps were supposed to be Flores' way out of this dilemma - the fear and doubt he was feeling.

The fifth-degree black belt sensei - a master karate teacher - feared no man. But he had come to fear this little boy with cerebral palsy who wanted so badly to learn karate. For hours, Cole would sit in his wheelchair in his room watching pirate movies on TV and practicing karate moves to help the good guys win, says his mother, Michelle Massie.

For his 9th birthday, he wanted only one thing, he told her. Real karate lessons. For weeks, Michelle called every karate instructor in the Yellow Pages only to hear the same answer: "Sorry, we don't take severely handicapped children in wheelchairs as students. We are not trained to train them."

The Glendale YMCA was her last hope. A friend had told her about Flores, and how all the kids there loved him. Their sensei spent as much time in class teaching pride and respect as he did teaching them to fight and defend themselves.

If anyone could see past the wheelchair and her son's physical disability and know what to do, it would be this 50-year-old sensei with the big heart. Michelle crossed her fingers and dialed his number.

Flores put down the phone and took a long, deep breath. Those old enemies of his were back, slowly crawling up the back of his neck. Fear and doubt. "I knew I wasn't trained for this, and to be honest, I didn't want to do it," he said.

Flores thought long and hard, but in the end he called Michelle and gave her the bad news - couching it with a plausible excuse. The elevator at the Glendale YMCA only went up to the third floor and his karate class was on the fourth floor. There was no handicapped access to get Cole to class in his wheelchair. I'm sorry, he said.

Flores hung up feeling as low as he had in a long time. Fear and doubt had won. Michelle hung up and started to cry. She had nowhere else to turn. In a few minutes, she would walk into her son's room and tell him she had tried - but failed. He was a great kid, never gave her or his father, Will, a second's worth of trouble or back talk. They had told Cole he could be whatever he wanted to be, not to let his wheelchair and cerebral palsy define him.

But it was defining him, and that made Michelle angry. She never made it to Cole's room that day. She picked up the phone and called Flores back. "Are you saying the only reason Cole can't take lessons is because of those steps?" she asked him.

Sam smiled. He could see what was coming. This was one tough mother and kid that his fear and doubt were going up against. "I'll carry my son up those steps if you'll take him," Michelle said, holding her breath. There was a long pause. "Mondays and Wednesdays at 3:45 p.m.," the sensei said. "See you there."

And that's where Cole has been every Monday and Wednesday at 3:45 p.m. for the past nine months, arriving half an hour early so he can cling to the handrail and inch his crippled body up those last 16 steps to make it to class on time. "I carried him the first six months, but now he wants to do it himself, show his sensei how far he has come," Michelle said last week.

Cole has nothing to prove to anyone, Flores says, watching the boy struggle up those steps last week. "It used to break my heart watching him, but now I only feel pride and respect for him. This little boy is the essence of the karate spirit. Even though his body will not allow him to do what other kids can do, he never gives up.

"He has become the inspiration of my class, and teaching him karate has been the most rewarding thing I have ever done."

There was a special class last Saturday at the Glendale YMCA for Cole Massie's 9th birthday. The sensei bowed and stood in front of his 20 students, who bowed back. Cole sat with them in his wheelchair, practicing all the modified moves Flores had devised for him. Cole knew his test for a novice's yellow belt - the first color belt in karate - would be coming up soon. He just didn't know when.

Flores led the class through all the techniques, asking Cole before each one what it meant and how to say it in Japanese. "I didn't tell him, but this was his test," Flores said. "Cole may be limited because of his physical limitations, but he grasped and excelled at the mental, spiritual essence of the karate spirit."

At the end of the session, the sensei announced that in 25 years as a teacher he never had one student score 100% on his yellow-belt test. Cole Massie was his first.

Flores walked over to the boy and handed him his yellow belt as the class began clapping and cheering. waaa.gif With a smile that lit up the room, Cole Massie looked up at his sensei, then over at his mom and dad. "I knew I could do it. I earned it," Cole said. Yes, he had. One step at a time. Fear and doubt never had a chance. campeon.gif campeon.gif campeon.gif
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I did not write this story it was a quote from a major news paper...
Sorry it was not "Judo" related, but I think it will pass...
JeffBruner
Inspirational, indeed. And a lesson to any of us who aspire to be a sensei.
Judo4All
Very nice story.
Thanks.

Dino
richfavinger
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Cole Massie
cohen-cooke 2006- WA
QUOTE(richfavinger @ Feb 28 2007, 04:10 PM) [snapback]239927[/snapback]

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Cole Massie


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Kuro-Judo
Good on him.
Patricia
That is a great story! Teaching handicap kids is much harder then teaching able bodied/able minded kids, but for every bit it is harder it is that much more rewarding to see them succeed!
Hanon
Cole Massie is the perfect student of any Budo. No ego or false pride just a desire to LEARN and take part.

All 'key board ninja' here could learn a lot from this youngster with the correct spirit. I bow in total respect to him and his coach. Thank god for them both.
pinklady
QUOTE(richfavinger @ Feb 28 2007, 08:10 AM) [snapback]239927[/snapback]

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Cole Massie


A determined individual, courage and spirit any individual would be proud to have. manoyes.gif


richfavinger
If it is not apparent already... Cole, I'm sure you would be welcomed into any of our dojo's. It is extremely unfortunate that your mother met with such difficulty in finding a sensei for you to train with. But it just shows you how "commercial" some places can be, and the true differences between places that train with passion and love of there sport, and the ones who "just run a business".

We would honorably have you in our dojo any day Cole Massie.
To all the dojo's who have rejected you, I truly hope they feel totally rotten for doing so.
My very strong a utterly personal opinion, those "sensei" do not deserve there black belts or the title! angry.gif
The Guv'nor
I must admit, That story brought a tear to my eye, What an inspiring, and encouraging story to find between all the crap we all hear and say to each other normally.

Thank you very much for posting

Keep Smiling
Judo Noob
Great story. manoyes.gif

Thanks for posting it.
MIKE100
dammit i just got all teared up.........
Allinthefootwork
Things like this help put some of the reasons I give for not training into perspective.

Obviously I'm too damned tough to cry when I read something like this, but just by chance, I did get something in my eye.
Carson Fong
Cole Massie FTMFW!
great story! tenacity and persistence helped this kid out bigtime. If everybody had his great attitude, the world would be a much better place.

Karate, Judo or anything else; it's an inspiring story to read about.
sta94
Really inspirational. Thanks for posting.

Incidentally, I was watching Starrett Cup in Brooklyn, NY in January and there was a guy in a judogi in a wheelchair watching from the sidelines. I thought he was there to support a family-member. Then the Men's 73kgs category got called and next thing you know I see this guy crawl out of his wheelchair, drag himself from the edge of the mats with his hands and get into the center. The referee and the other player helped him stand up, take grips, and the match started. Obviously this guy could not stand up properly so the match immediately went to newaza. He lost, dragged himself out to his wheelchair and a little bit later was back on the mat to play his second match in the repechage. He lost this match too, but it looked like he played better the second match. His coach (I think it was Clyde Worthen from Tech Judo, NJ) and team-mates were shouting advice from the sidelines, just like they had for their other players, and boy! was this guy trying or what!

And once he was done, he dragged himself off the mats and onto his wheelchair with no help and no fuss. His coach and team-mates treated him just like everybody else - no fuss, no allowances for his handicap (besides help in standing up for the start of the match or when matte was called), and when he was done, a pat on his back and some words of technical advice just like everyone else received.

My hats off to the guy and to his coach. Good for judo!
Christian Boekel
QUOTE(sta94 @ Mar 4 2007, 07:54 PM) [snapback]241243[/snapback]

Really inspirational. Thanks for posting.

Incidentally, I was watching Starrett Cup in Brooklyn, NY in January and there was a guy in a judogi in a wheelchair watching from the sidelines. I thought he was there to support a family-member. Then the Men's 73kgs category got called and next thing you know I see this guy crawl out of his wheelchair, drag himself from the edge of the mats with his hands and get into the center. The referee and the other player helped him stand up, take grips, and the match started. Obviously this guy could not stand up properly so the match immediately went to newaza. He lost, dragged himself out to his wheelchair and a little bit later was back on the mat to play his second match in the repechage. He lost this match too, but it looked like he played better the second match. His coach (I think it was Clyde Worthen from Tech Judo, NJ) and team-mates were shouting advice from the sidelines, just like they had for their other players, and boy! was this guy trying or what!

And once he was done, he dragged himself off the mats and onto his wheelchair with no help and no fuss. His coach and team-mates treated him just like everybody else - no fuss, no allowances for his handicap (besides help in standing up for the start of the match or when matte was called), and when he was done, a pat on his back and some words of technical advice just like everyone else received.

My hats off to the guy and to his coach. Good for judo!


I totally agree, hats off and tons of respect!

Christian
Tafftaz
QUOTE(Allinthefootwork @ Mar 3 2007, 06:29 PM) [snapback]241046[/snapback]

Things like this help put some of the reasons I give for not training into perspective.

Obviously I'm too damned tough to cry when I read something like this, but just by chance, I did get something in my eye.

Funny enough I got something in my eye also.
And there was me whingeing about injuries in another thread.
We have a coach in Wales by the name of Roy Court who does outstanding work with kids with physical and mental difficulties.These judoka and coaches like Cole Massie and Sam Flores,and not forgetting Cole's mum and Dad, truly humble us and should inspire us all to promote judo, or any other sport, for all.
Judo Tom
QUOTE(sta94 @ Mar 4 2007, 01:54 PM) [snapback]241243[/snapback]

Really inspirational. Thanks for posting.

Incidentally, I was watching Starrett Cup in Brooklyn, NY in January and there was a guy in a judogi in a wheelchair watching from the sidelines. I thought he was there to support a family-member. Then the Men's 73kgs category got called and next thing you know I see this guy crawl out of his wheelchair, drag himself from the edge of the mats with his hands and get into the center. The referee and the other player helped him stand up, take grips, and the match started. Obviously this guy could not stand up properly so the match immediately went to newaza. He lost, dragged himself out to his wheelchair and a little bit later was back on the mat to play his second match in the repechage. He lost this match too, but it looked like he played better the second match. His coach (I think it was Clyde Worthen from Tech Judo, NJ) and team-mates were shouting advice from the sidelines, just like they had for their other players, and boy! was this guy trying or what!

And once he was done, he dragged himself off the mats and onto his wheelchair with no help and no fuss. His coach and team-mates treated him just like everybody else - no fuss, no allowances for his handicap (besides help in standing up for the start of the match or when matte was called), and when he was done, a pat on his back and some words of technical advice just like everyone else received.

My hats off to the guy and to his coach. Good for judo!


I KNOW HIM.... I KNOW HIM>>>>>

He posts here actually. Thats my good friend and training partner. I was one of those guys yellin for him.

Did you think he was just wearing gi pants all day for no reason... J/K!

He fights and trains harder then anyone I know.
Marcinek
Hahaha yeah dude, Why would i wear a gi if i was there cheering on a family member? its not like they make JudoTom replica gis like they would football jerseys. (yet, Tommy make a note of that {PATENT PENDING})

No, i'm sorry i'm just bustin your ass a bit and having some fun. Thank you very very much for the kind words. They are very much appreciated and i feel very undeserved. I don't like to be looked at as any different, i want zero special treatment, no special recognition the fact that i'm even really mentioned on this thread makes me a little uneasy haha. I'm just a kid who has been blessed with the ability to go out there and do what i love to do the most in life...judo..now if i can pick up a few wins....

I'm also very blessed to have a training partner/friend/"brother" like JudoTom to train w/ on a daily basis.

but enough of that Serious stuff...

"Obviously this guy could not stand up properly so the match immediately went to newaza"

I DID try some throws in my matches...single leg, a few ma sutemi throws, were they really that bad? hahaha oh, well back to the dojo i guess.

Thank you again,
-Matt Marcinek
sta94
Marcinek, so that was you???!!! Way to go bro!

About that "straight to newaza" comment - I was sitting on the other end of the bleachers from your mat and was paying closer attention to the 81kg and 90kg divisions on the other mats so I might have missed some of your tachi-waza attempts :-) Don't matter - what matters is that you trained hard, went in there and put in your all.

Next time I see you in competition I'll be sure to introduce myself. Pretty sure that way I'll get to meet JudoTom as well.
Marcinek
Thanks again. Sta. no worries on missin my throws. BTW, Congrats to Cole Massie really cool story.
richfavinger
I know who you are too Matt. You have attended a few of our events at Pottstown. I was going to give you a copy of Cole's story when I got a chance to run into you again at an event. As I recall you attended the NE Family YMCA event a few months ago.

I am Fred Eddinger's senior student (well just got Shodan biggrin.gif)...
Guys like you and Andre Watson (a blind judoka, you should know him) are reasons why I stay in the sport.

Myself I just recently started fighting under Blind Judo rules (grip) because I am legally blind myself, and have a hard time seeing and swatting grips. How ever for 13 years I never used it, I NEVER KNEW I COULD! Because my first coaches never treated me as such. Having a grip has little advantage (in my view), but it makes me feel safer, not having to worry about getting swatted in the head!

Keep up the good work!
Marcinek
QUOTE(richfavinger @ Mar 8 2007, 03:10 PM) [snapback]242648[/snapback]

I know who you are too Matt. You have attended a few of our events at Pottstown. I was going to give you a copy of Cole's story when I got a chance to run into you again at an event. As I recall you attended the NE Family YMCA event a few months ago.

I am Fred Eddinger's senior student (well just got Shodan biggrin.gif)...
Guys like you and Andre Watson (a blind judoka, you should know him) are reasons why I stay in the sport.

Myself I just recently started fighting under Blind Judo rules (grip) because I am legally blind myself, and have a hard time seeing and swatting grips. How ever for 13 years I never used it, I NEVER KNEW I COULD! Because my first coaches never treated me as such. Having a grip has little advantage (in my view), but it makes me feel safer, not having to worry about getting swatted in the head!

Keep up the good work!



Yep. I've been to a bunch of the Pottstown tournaments. Last years Family YMCA was actually my first tournament ever and it seems like a long time ago now (i compete a lot lol) Thank You For the compliment it means a lot.

I'm Very Familiar with Andre, i've seen him fight many times and i'm always impressed after he is done.

Congrats on your Shodan!
richfavinger
Just an update to add about Cole - (Old, but new to me)
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Friday, December 29, 2006
Got Some Game

Friday's highlight might have come after practice when a number of young patients from the USC/Norris Comprehensive Cancer Center and the Ronald McDonald House in Pasadena got to meet the USC players and coaches.

Cole Massey, 9, of Atwater Village in Pasadena, who will ride in the Rose Parade on the McDonald's float next to Ronald, made the most of it.

Not only did he get his football autographed, the youngster battling cerebral palsy got a group of USC players to get him out of his wheelchair to play catch. Dan Weber
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Strides Rider in the Rose Parade
http://stridestherapeutic.blogspot.com/200...ose-parade.html
See Cole on the float...
And a little more at, Atwater Village Neighborhood Superkid
http://atwater-village.blogspot.com/2007/0...d-superkid.html
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Enjoy folks...
laotzu42
Wow, not cool to make an old guy get all misty-eyed at work. Very inspiring story. Congrats to his mom for persevering!
richfavinger
Update:
Cole has been entered into the Karate Angles 2007 Kids Hall of Fame
http://www.karateangels.com/cole_massie.htm

Congratulations Cole! campeon.gif

Yours truly has received the honor of Sensei of the Month, and Club of the Month from Karate Angels because of your nomination. Although I think I was just doing my job telling people about your story, I humbly accept the award. blush.gif
richfavinger
Update:
Just an update on our little friend from CA. Cole sent me an e-mail tonight, he just wanted to let me know that he received his next Karate rank.

Cole has been awarded his Yellow Belt with White Stripe

Photo courtesy of the Massie Family

Congratulations Cole, from all your friends at the Judo Forum! :campeon.gif:
If you missed the story, read the front of this thread...
richfavinger
Update:
Cole just had surgery on his legs. This relieves some of the tension in his muscles from the CP...
If you wish to fallow his progress you can read about it on his blog... smile.gif

http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/colemassie
Soapninja
That story made me cry. Then again, I cried at the end of cool runnings when they carried the bobsled too...it's easy to tug my heart strings.

wow, what an amazing little boy.
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